Tuesday, November 20, 2012

EMPTY NESTING IS FOR THE BIRDS

Dear Ethyl..
The person who made up the fable called empty nesting was lying.  When Jesica turned 16, time for me sped up and I started looking to the future and worrying what my life would be like when my kids were gone from the house.  What would I do with my life?  What would my purpose be?  Do I even have a purpose?  Some questions might be better left unanswered, he he.  Pretty sure I spent the next 6 years worrying about it, even crying over it.  I am STILL wondering what life would be like when my kids all leave home...because they won't.  They have all moved out, but they just keep coming back, and coming back and coming back.  We really are trying to be empty nesters..no really! I love it when they come.  I realized there's a lesson that I need to learn first.  It's how to make Will the most important one, even in a crowd.  He has a problem with that too, so we get to practice.  Someday we will get it right.  It's busy right now, but it won't last long.  We are trying to learn what we need to and enjoy it while they are here. When you have a close family that's what happens I guess. Now we kind of get the best of both worlds. It is fun though when we get to pretend we're empty nesters. Is there such a thing as empty nesting?  I don't know... you tell me!

FORGIVENESS... WHAT THE HECK!

Dear Ethyl...
So...... Forgiveness is HARD!  I know, I know.  It's always been hard and it always will be hard, but seriously... It's soooo hard!!  The Lord commands us to forgive. So I try to be obedient.  I know it's for my own sake, I know it will make me feel better, and I know it's not my job to see justice done and punish the offending party...Dang it!!  I know I need to show mercy if I want any shown to me.  I know exactly what I should do and why I should do it.  SO WHY CAN'T I?  My head is willing, but my heart folds it's arms and stamps it's foot and glares me in the eye and says...MAKE ME!
I hate it when that happens!  It's easy to forgive when someone comes to you and apologizes for hurting you, but unfortunately that doesn't really happen all that often.  More often than not, there is no apology and therefore no resolution of the conflict so it is left to wander around in your mind and torment you like a bad toothache.  The bad thing is that when I refuse to forgive, I'm the one who keeps getting wounded over and over and over again.  This past week I finally got tired of being angry and holding out for an apology.  Anger is painful and it takes a lot of my energy.  It's not me.  It's not who I am inside.  I am not a mean person.  Not for long periods of time, anyway.  It's hard when you go to battle against yourself.  So I threw in the towel and hoisted the surrender flag.  I give up!  This war has been too hard on me. Somebody's gotta make the first move. So I apologized for being angry and for hurting someone's feelings and for not forgiving the party for months.  Then I repented for not forgiving and being angry, told the Lord I took the first step and asked Him to supply the feelings of charity that are supposed to go with it ( That are not there, not even close yet) But....  I feel like a giant weight has been lifted off of my life.  I feel like the old me again.  I can do favors for this person, I can say kind things when I am around them and I can smile.  Maybe the Lord is starting to supply the feelings after all?  Who knows?   Someday, I will get tired of being angry right at the beginning so I can skip the ugly middle part and move right into letting it go and getting on with my life.  What a wonderful thought....

Saturday, November 17, 2012

DISNEY ON ICE 2012

Dear Ethyl...
Thanks to my baby girl Jaci, Disney on Ice is now a yearly tradition for the Latham clan.  Well, most of us at least.  Well, all the girls and kids... Let's be honest.  Jaci started it about 4 years ago. Last year we went without her because she was on her mission.  It was sort of empty without her there.  So this year she got us tickets and we went again. Jaci, Jes, Hilary, Mom, Silvi, Daniel and I. Daniel LOVED IT!  He didn't go last year, can't remember why, but was sad that Jes went without him. He's waited a whole year to do this.  Jaci bought him a Phineas and Ferb shirt and beanie to wear.  He was so cute.  She bought him a $12 cotton candy with a crown and ears. Will and Tanner went on a man-date (he hates when I call it that) and saw the new James Bond movie. Shaun was out of town.  Dang it! I miss him!





Silvi was brave!  She had a bad toothache (had to have it pulled the next day) So sad she couldn't eat the cotton candy!

Daniel and his Goods!


The whale from Pinnochio


The finale... Toy story, Pinnochio, Lion King, Princesses, Aladdin and Mickey and the Gang.

And......  THE MELTDOWN!

Just having a good time

TRUTH

Dear Ethyl...
You have to acknowledge truth wherever you find it.
Yep....

GETTING READY FOR HALLOWEEN WITH THE COLTONS

 Dear Ethyl...
As you already know, I LOVE HALLOWEEN!  Just clarifying!  The Colton's were here with us for a month so we got to share with them.  That was fun.  It is a tradition that I make popcorn balls to give out to the kids.  I love to do that.  But... trunk or treat is Ruining trick or treating and hardly any kids come to my house anymore. I HATE TRUNK OR TREAT!!  It has a purpose when Halloween falls on Sunday or if you are in a remote area.  Neither usually apply here.  I think it makes the kids lazy and they miss out on trekking for your treats and talking to your neighbors.  It's good memories they are missing out on.  Just sayin...
Anyway, we carved pumpkins and made popcorn balls and had dinner and trick or treated and watched Halloween movies... Fun night!




Daniel is so big this year because he can carve his pumpkin all by himself

Carving pumpkins is always fun.


Emily taking charge of the caramel

Jaci LOVES Halloween too!  Actually, she loves any kind of party of craft or get together too!!  She is so fun to have around and the little girls  ADORE  her!  Ps... So do we!!!

I remember making popcorn balls with my mom as a kid.  I loved to put the butter on my hands and especially eating them when I was done!  Good memories!  

We ended up with about 100 popcorn balls and only gave away about  25.  Next year I'm only making 50!

The end product!  Always a Halloween pencil and a tag with our name on  it so people know where it came from

THIS IS ME!  A rare beauty I know!  My fallback  costume.  I am a hillbilly!  I usually sit out on the front porch with a fire going and bluegrass music with my washboard.   I have to dress up to hand out the treats...
It's Tradition!









THIS IS MY TUFF GUY!

Dear Ethyl...
I just wanted to brag on my AMAZING guy!  In the words of a lot of people at the gym... He's and Animal!
He does crossfit 5 days a week.  He teaches 2 days a week.  He runs, he bikes.  He's a stud, what can I say?  He ran the Tuff Mudder for the first time.  I was going to go to support him but it was $40 a spectator and it was cold and rainy so I offered my support from the comfort of my living room.
He said it was pretty hard, but I know he felt good about it and it was something new he conquered.  He likes that feeling!  I get the same feeling from canning or cleaning out a closet.  Hardly olympic sports and vastly underrated!!!  If they were... I would own the gold!!  And let's not even go into "Helping".  I am a world champion!  he he
Back to the adorable subject at hand...
The Tuff Mudder was 12 miles long with 25 obstacles. Lots of water obstacles, ice water, wall climbs, barbed wire, mud and 2 live electric wire obstacles.  He said it really hurt and the electricity would slam you down into the ground.

This is Will sporting his hare earned Tuff Mudder headband.  He's pretty proud of that!

Will's fancy new workout socks.  They are the latest thing in fashion among the crossfit set!

This is what Will looks like after a race, after a workout, in the middle of  the day, whenever he sits down, when he's driving, after church, during church, after he's just eaten, in the evening....

THIS AND THAT...

Dear Ethyl...
It's been a while and I am forcing myself even as I speak to write.  Life is good.  There have been a lot of things going on and a lot of changes. We are having company for at least a month. Paul, Kate and the kids have been here between our house and mom's house and it has been fun!  I'm so glad they came because I think it's made our relationship better. I'm so glad because i worried the opposite would happen.
Spiritual Side Note...
For the first time ever in my life, I let go of the outcome of my life and my plans and am able to  let God take over and take me wherever he wants to. That's a BIG step for a control freak like me. I have been learning lots of good/hard things these past couple of months about myself and other people. I have lots of stuff to practice but I'm getting better at it.
Shaun had an interview for a really great job in...Wisconsin!?  Yah, I freaked out a couple of days ago thinking that I could possibly have no grandkids around. Tanner is going active duty after next year and who knows who Jaci will marry and where she'll end up. I didn't like that thought at all since my life plan for me centered around having the kids and grandkids close and doing things together and having a close family. I asked for help adjusting and God let me know that everything would be ok and my life would be good and I was able to let go of the outcome for the first time ever.  I wish I could pass that on to my kids so they could learn to let go too.  Maybe that comes with time?
So here are a few of the things we've been doing lately...


Daniel climbing the walls...Literally!  We also hook up Will's big crossfit bands to the  bar and it makes a big johnny jumper for Daniel to bounce on.  He loves that too!


Was having a rotten day and My Sweetheart brought me flowers and I got the cute boots I ordered in the mail, and they fit!  I got the newest Josi Kilpack mystery book too!  My day went from rotten to Great!  I love that!!


Silvi trying to catch goldfish in grandma's pond.  She sat there for a long time and tried lots of different techniques, but alas, to no avail.  Sometimes the fish just won't cooperate!


Daniel eating Halloween waffles.  I made them, he tasted them and then refused to eat them and said they were yucky. He doesn't like whipped cream.  What???  What's wrong with that kid?

The is the cutest girl from Deb, in the mall, who said I have GREAT HAIR and that she loved it!  That has never happened to me and so it is a momentous occasion in my life and thus... needed to be recorded for posterity.  Yes...
I do have great hair... Thanks for noticing!!

Making sugar cookies.... Always fun!

Making edible glitter

We used some of the edible glitter to make this TIME OUT  timer.   They say necessity is the mother of invention and Daniel REALLY NEEDED a time out ... again.  It's made of sugar and he has to watch it and think about what he did wrong until all the sand is gone. Actually... Everybody loves to play with it.

Silvi sort of helping Will put in the new wood stove.

My impression of a stove pipe.  Pretty good huh!

We were all playing our favorite game...Sorry!

Daniel helping Papa start a fire. Daniel LOVES to help!  Even without being asked.  I caught him sneaking  a knife on  the front porch and carving his own pumpkin.  He also snuck Will's motorcycle key and tried to start it. He brings wood in for the wood stove and tries to start his own fire in the fireplace.  He's very curious, ambitious and thinks he's capable of doing anything.  That combination keeps us on our toes!!

Daniel learning his ABC's on the V Smile.  He doesn't play too often, but at least he learns something when  he does.
 I love when he comes to stay at our house.  I just like having kids around.  It feels like a family and I like to play!  I love to make stuff and do projects and read to him and watch cartoons!


That's what I'm talkin about!!!



Wednesday, October 3, 2012

SHUTTERS IN TANGERINE

Dear Ethyl...
These are the shutters I got to put for the door of the Barracks, but I liked them on the wall next to the doorway better. Aren't they Fun?!


TWO DAYS WORTH OF WORK...

Dear Ethyl...
I've had quite a bit of energy the past 2 days. So I am making a list of what I've done...

Laundry
Sweep
Mop
Vacume
Dust
Ran errands
Typed a monthly menu
Watered outside plants
Drained and Cleaned Pond
Wiped down all baseboards and doors
Washed all inside and outside windows
Made Hot Salsa for Will & bottled 21
Exercised both days
Washed sheets
Talked to family on the phone total 2 1/2 hrs

Those are the big things.  Will pointed out that when I talk to people about some things I do,
I refer to the reason I do things certain ways is because I'm lazy.  He told me to stop because lazy
is definitely NOT a word that describes me.  I have a hard time when I don't have something to do.
I'm learning to relax more and not to call relaxing being lazy. During the day I rarely sit down at all.
I kind of like it that way.

Ps... last night I found H.R. PuffinStuff on Netflix.  I used to watch it when I was a kid. So we watched
it last night. It is so corny but you know what?  I still like it !  It feels nostalgic and familiar and I really like
WitchyPoo.  DON'T JUDGE ME !

MY YUCKY MONDAY TURNED OUT GREAT!

Dear Ethyl...
My Monday morning was frustrating and I wrote the CAN SOMEONE ELSE BE IN CHARGE post.
But... I got to finish reading TRES LECHES CUPCAKES  by Josi Kilpack. I Love Love Love that series of culinary mysteries. Then... Will brought me home some beautiful flowers. He is sooo romantic -  A Lot !
Then the boots I ordered from Amazon came and they were cute and they even fit me.  YAY !
The moral of the story...
Don't let one bad thing ruin your whole day  or  Don't judge a day by first impressions !



Mom and I went on a date while Will and Silvi went on a date.  I took her to Bajio's in Spanish Fork.
I took a picture of my nachos because if you notice there is chili beans and spanish rice on it. I never can eat that. Well, sometimes I just want to feel normal so I ordered it and ate it. IT WAS HEAVENLY !  I didn't even hurt afterwards. I don't dare eat like that very often, but it was so worth it !

FUN WEEKEND...

Dear Ethyl...
We were all together for the weekend.  Well, not Tanner and Hilary.  We seem to get some of the kids every other weekend. Anyway, karaoke is always fun when Jaci comes. We just like being together. I'm so glad about that. I always wanted to have a close family and it takes a lot of work, but it is working. I always wanted a big family, living semi-close together, with lots of grandkids and doing lots of things together. I don't know how much of that will happen... but we will do the best we can.  We do love each other though and that's the most important thing !





Tuesday, October 2, 2012

KATE IS MY HERO!!

My brother called me this morning and told me the most incredible story.  They were on the beach with Lucy and a storm started to brew.  So they left and went to the store and were in there for a while. When they came out the storm had pretty much cleared so they went back to the beach.  They heard a huge crash and saw a flash and there was a lightening strike and a man 30 ft away got hit by lightening.  When they got to the man, Paul says that he was dead when they got to him.  Kate started cpr and instructed another man how to do the breathing.  She revived him and he is in stable condition.  The Lord is so good and cares about everyone.  And Kate is totally amazing!!  When I am in a traumatic physical situation, I just walk around in circles... or drop my pants  he he! (inside family joke)
I love Paul and Kate and the kids and we miss them so much!  I am so proud of them for being brave and trying this adventure in the first place.  I would never have the courage to even attempt something like that.
They are all my heroes!

Monday, October 1, 2012

CAN SOMEONE ELSE BE IN CHARGE?

Dear Ethyl...
This is a short post all about frustration. My frustration to be exact!  I figured  out that it's just me lacking skills. I hate it when that happens! As the mom I try to coordinate schedules so we can have family time. It's almost impossible.  I don't even really have room to complain because our family is relatively small so it should be pretty easy OR I shouldn't be complaining because I have a family that loves each other and likes to be together.  Here is my hang up... I still have people issues. Not like I used to, mind you, I am improving a lot, but I have them all the same. Way down deep inside I am still a kid and still feel abandoned, forgotten and unloved.  I do pretty well most of the time because I am so blessed and have such a good life and a loving husband and wonderful kids!  But alas, (I love using that word) the evil monster still rears its ugly head way too often. It feels like I just chase people for their time and attention. I guess that's what happens when I am more social than a lot of other people.  Sometimes it just gets tiring doing all the chasing. Sometimes I want to be the one who is chased. Sometimes I want people to try to figure out their schedules so they can be with me.  I'm not quite sure what that feels like, but I'm sure it would be wonderful!  I am a 45 year OLD woman and I thought I would have worked through this by now. A friend of mine called it being mature when you can let go of that. I guess I haven't arrived at maturity yet. :o)
Dang the humanness of it all!!
 I want to have fun. I want everyone to have fun. Fun is important to me because it means love and closeness and good memories.  We didn't do anything with family really growing up and I didn't realize it was so hard to have fun and be close and keep families close. I also didn't realize that I would be the one doing the work.  It's good work and I would choose this over any other kind of work, and I guess anything worth having is worth working for.
This post it sounding an awful lot like a pity party so it's time to wrap it up... the party's over!
Nothing has been solved and I still don't have a plan worked out with my family this week.  I think I need to relax a little more and be more like Will and  wait until the very last minute before I make any plan at all.  It seems to work for him and he's NEVER frustrated! That's never been my personality, but I'm willing to try something new.  I also need to practice being like Jes who is better at making a plan and inviting people, and if they come they come and if they don't they don't.  It really doesn't bother her. She's my hero!
Someday it's not going to bother me either!  And until then.. I guess I'll just keep practicing!
PS....  Heavenly Father whispered to me a couple of days later that I've been living the law... An Eye for an Eye   In my mind.  That's why i am upset a lot.  So... I'm ready to stop doing that and I'm so glad it finally has a name so I can deal with it.

Sunday, September 23, 2012

SQUASHIN WITH MY BABY

Dear Ethyl...
Today is officially squash day at the Latham house... Finally!  I love squash day!  It's the funnest most satisfying food storage.
 4 EAST STEPS...
1- Peel squash
2-Scrape out seeds
3-Cut in cubes
4-Put in freezer bags
 Ta Da!!  That's it!
We got 45 quart bags. Then to use them you just smack the bag on the counter to separate cubes and put it in crockpot soups, stews, fry them in a pan and put in pasta with salmon or as a side, or make squash bisque (that's soup for those of you who don't know what bisque is. he he) I am also going to try it for breakfast with rice and brown sugar since I can't have oatmeal or anything.
I love squashing with Will!

You need a big strong handsome man to peel and cut the squash since we  weak fragile
females have such a hard time!  He He.. it's so convenient too!

He loves it... You can tell

This baby weighs 41 lbs.  That's as big and tall as Daniel.
It's Will's pride and joy.  It's been on display at his office for a month.

Squished by the squash.  I named him Freddy

Freddy got disemboweled.  Poor Freddy!

Will's new crossfit equipment. It's called the squash hat.  His neck had a hard time holding it up.
Can anyone say gnome?

Will had separation anxiety... Poor Will!

ME AND MY GIRLS

Dear Ethyl...
Jes and Shaun came down for the weekend to go to his family reunion in park city.  Jaci did Jes's hair and we went to lunch at...  Sizzler cause Jaci had to work.  Then Jes and I went shopping at Plato's closet.  She got her first paycheck and was so excited to spend it on herself.  Shaun needed us to withdraw money to pay will back for the Alaska trip. I was driving so I did.  I just drove off without his card. OOPS!  I feel really bad about that! So they are staying an extra night so they can go back to the bank and get the card back out of the ATM.  I think I'm fired!  But we get an extra day of fun family time. Jaci just got here and she and Silvi are doing Disney karaoke. We will all do it when everyone gets here. Jes gave me all her germs the day we went shopping and I'm sick.  I'm such a germ sponge. It was worth it!